My husband and I have always been very outgoing and open minded when it comes to our sexual needs, wants, desires, and adventures. Throughout exploring we came across cuckolding. It was hot enough to us both, that it was stuck in our heads all week. Over the following weekend we explored deeper into the subject. Still hesitant we would sometimes role play, or lay together in bed talking back and forth about the fun that could be had and what our overall personal purpose was in all of this. However the reality of those early stage discussions and fantasies were much different. We didnt start realizing that the “normal” dynamics that the majority of couples were exploring or living out in terms of Cuckolding, were way off from our point of view and everything that we found hot in it. The more research my hubby and I have done the more we have come to terms that being in the cuckold lifestyle ,especially with a couple/family, can be extremely difficult. Not necessarily because of the dynamics themselves; the majority of people who find this lifestyle hot and bothersome are very often the men.

In our case, we are extremely fortunate to be so in tune and compatible with one another. To be 100 percent honest we both didn’t really know the extent of our fantasies, or know what exactly it was for us individually that we were so attracted too, in all of this. When it all came to the surface and we really began discussing and sharing, it was thrilling. As one crazy bizarre thought was brought up, there would come another; even naughtier than the rest. Personally all of this still has me unbelievably astonished by the many aspects included. Not only by how far I have come in searching for my true passion/calling sexually, but my husband as well; has really proven just how intertwined our desires are. Together we have grown closer as a couple & became confident with our ownselves. This DID NOT happen overnight nor do I think it should..ever!
Nonetheless, with trust, effort, willingness and an open mind… what is impossible?
There are some who secretly live the lifestyle behind their significant others back and become so drawn to it all, they pressure their wife or girlfriend to get on board. Unfortunately most of the time, the wife or GF becomes frustrated and they begin to feel guilty, for even thinking about the “lifestyle” or saying no to their “hubby”; because it didn’t feel right. I imagine this can cause them to have some new problems and insecurities within that relationship, which were previously nonexistent. Ultimately landing in a place of secret self indulgence, because of the now existent sexual disconnect in the relationship. From here, I believe there are a few ways this can go;
the Wife/girlfriend ends up having a change of heart; she doesn’t want to hurt him or make him feel shamed by rejecting his fantasies. So in an attempt, she try’s to play along in something she’s uncomfortable, unsure and uninterested in. In a situation like that how could she not be frustrated, confused and uncomfortable? Putting a huge silent block of dishonesty and little to no communication between what seemed to be a simple, safe and innocent relationship.

Another way this could unfold is the wife is genuinely disinterested causing their relationship to slowly separate. I say separate because I have found that those whom have a strong desire in this lifestyle without the support of their partner, become infatuated with the idea. Which in this scenario, the odds of the husband coming to terms and accepting that he will never share this fantasy with his wife, and continue faithfully in their marriage seems unrealistic or at the very least unlikely. Reality is, he might start seeking other avenues to live out his fantasies, without his wife/girlfriend’s knowledge. Now how long do you think that marriage will remain loyal and happy??

Although, there is a 3rd outcome that seems to be a rarity. When the wife and husband so happen to share similar dark fantasies, or she is willing to try, (whether it be truly for her husband or for her own personal reasons, or both is another question in mind). However, if they did find a dynamic that worked, how far do their fantasies go? Maybe they can play it out until they both decide otherwise.. communication is mandatory when coasting through this ride. Taking those moments to stop and discuss each other’s end goals and any new thoughts is the secret ingredient. You can only crawl up the ladder so far before reaching the top, at which point if you don’t stop and revaluate; having no more ladder to crawl, you fall…

-BBCHotwife